Wednesday, December 25, 2019

The Way Of A Baby With A World (A re-post)




Saturday, December 23, 2017


The Way Of A Baby With A World

The room was packed as we inched our way forward in the long procession of people headed for the tables of food. Rows and rows of tables and chairs covered every available space in the room, leaving only narrow aisles for our line to squeeze through. My husband and I are avid people watchers and we found plenty of entertainment amongst the wide variety who had gathered. Perhaps, after all, it was the tiniest person attending who received the most attention. I noticed her first, down by my feet to the right. She was tucked comfortably into her car seat, one fist in her mouth and her blanket slipping down to nearly cover one eye.


"Aww, look at her," I nudged my husband and nodded toward the baby. "Isn't she cute?" Even he, who likes to remark on the fact that no child is as ugly as one who's not your own, agreed.

We exchanged a few words with the little miss's mom who was busily enjoying her food while keeping one eye on her baby and smiling at everyone who passed and took note of the little charmer. Babies have a way of doing that, you know. Without even trying, they somehow manage to capture people's attention and melt hearts just a little.


If you've ever had a baby of your own, you know the phenomenon of suddenly attracting attention wherever you go. At the grocery store, the restaurant, the church, the parking lot, you name it; wherever you go you are showered with smiles and comments and attention. People who would have never given you a second look otherwise, suddenly smile at you with warmth in their eyes and stop to hold your door or pick up the quarter you dropped. I remember an occasion where we were having lunch with friends at a restaurant, along with our three young children. The baby, especially, was drawing lots of attention. As a friendly lady paused beside our table to inquire and gush over each child's name, our friend spoke up mischievously, "My name is Billy!" Somehow no one had thought to ask him.

Babies seem to bring out the best in everyone, from children to old, weathered men. I remember another occasion when our oldest was small and upon leaving a restaurant, we discovered our bill had been paid by some kind gentleman who had admired our sweet, little boy.


There is a baby in our church right now who is just absolutely the sweetest thing ever. Dark eyes, lots of dark hair, perfect complexion, squishable cheeks and chubby little arms and legs. She'll look at you with the most solemn expression that practically begs to be cajoled into a smile. If you are successful, her grins are enough to turn the hardest heart into mush.

A while back I began noticing the reactions to this child at our church. From the young girls who fight for the chance to hold every baby in sight; to the mothers, busy with young ones of their own; to the husbands like mine who think the cutest child is their own; to the older men, who rarely hold a baby since their own are grown, the reactions are all the same -- complete and total adoration.


I've seen grown men ask to hold her during church; all manner of faces and contortions to coax a smile; softened eyes and gentle smiles every time.

This particular baby is the foster child of our pastor and his wife. It's as if the heartbreaking reality of all the brokenness in this world shines forth from that one sweet, little face and all of us soften and step forward to somehow ease the ache. That such purity and innocence should encounter the harshness of humanity is almost more than anyone with a heart can bear. The very sight of her prompts us all to pour forth the love we so long to see heal this broken world. On more than one occasion, as I've watched some grown man trying to coax a smile during church or noticed a grandpa jiggling her on his knee, I've felt a quick lump in my throat and blinked back a tear.


In this Christmas season, as the story of the Messiah's coming is told and retold in the programs and carols and sermons, my mind keeps going to that sweet baby at our church. Remembering the way she has captured our hearts and affection, one question keeps repeating itself in my mind.

Is it any wonder Jesus was sent to us as a baby?


Thursday, December 19, 2019

He Came

A bit of frank honesty about this time of the year....

Christmas time is full of many conflicting emotions for me. To varying degrees, neither Chris nor I grew up in families that made a big deal out of Christmas time. In the years since we've been married, we've juggled differences in opinions and there's needed to be a lot of give and take from both of us. Every year I think I will somehow sort things out and come to a better place with it all, but I end up just "making it through" December and leaving it all behind until next year.

I'm not sure that I'm really ready to delve into a full blown discussion on the origin of Christmas and what a person should choose to do with all of that. Maybe your insights would be helpful, I don't know.  I've struggled with all of that for years but that's not what I came here to talk about. I came here to talk about the actual story of Jesus birth. 

Do me a favor and go read this article about the story of Jesus birth, then come back and think about this with me....

How do you feel? Maybe you are skeptical of the writer; maybe you already successfully scoffed at the new ideas and held on to what you've always believed. I get it. I can't say with authority that the information in that article is one hundred percent accurate but I must admit, it does make a lot more sense than the story I've believed for years. 

Forget the fact that celebrating Christmas began with pagan roots and Jesus' birth did not take place on December 25th. What if the actual story we've portrayed for years has been a completely skewed version of the truth? What if every Christmas song you've sung, every nativity you've set up or acted out, every program you've watched or been a part of was based on the figment of western imagination? Does that kind of throw you for a loop, like it did me? Does it almost take the "magic" out of Christmas and leave you feeling confused and slightly sad and a tad cynical?

I confess that I still am not really sure what to do with it all. I do know this, it's made me realize that the miracle and wonder of Jesus' birth is not in the story. I think I've tied the meaning of it all to the picture of rejection and loneliness and abandonment we've created with our smelly stable and grouchy innkeeper. If I take away those things, it almost feels like I have nothing left and that is so far from the truth!

This article reminded me of the truth: "The incarnation is the miracle: it's not Jesus' otherness but his us-ness, his human-ness, his full experience as fully human and fully God together that is the miracle."

It doesn't have to be scary to realize I've been wrong. It doesn't have to throw me for a loop and put me into a helpless despair of wondering what to even do with it all. I still don't know how Christmas should look or how exactly we should tell our children the old, old story. I do think truth matters and that we should embrace learning, even when it makes us uncomfortable and pushes us outside of what we've always known and loved. But mostly, I want to remember that it's the incarnation that is the miracle. It's not so much how and when and where He came, but the fact that He Did.

Friday, December 6, 2019

As A Middle Aged Mom


After a day of three children quizzing, a husband and son coaching quizzers, the youngest going to school as usual, the two middle ones going out for supper with their quiz team, the oldest being in charge of some youth plans, and the driver with the permit driving the rest of us to town, my mind went in the direction of this poem. Sometimes I'm pretty sure the diapers and night feeding had their own places where they were a breeze.......

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As a Middle Aged Mom, 
My life is a breeze --
So much that there once was
Has passed into ease. 


No diapers, 
No nursing, 
No cries in the night. 
No feeding, 
No clothing, 
No soothing the fright.
No bathing, 
No teething, 
No toddlers who bite. 
No rocking, 
No bouncing, 
No settling at night. 

Of course there are new things, 
In Middle Aged life --
Five stages to mother;
One husband to 'wife'.


New scholars, 
New shavers, 
New youth out at night. 
New quizzers,
New freedoms, 
New drivers; what fright!
New thinkers,
New talkers, 
New questioning right. 
New dreamers,
New planners, 
New challenge alright. 

As a Middle Aged Mom, 
I have a suspicion.
This 'ease' that we speak of
Is false contradiction!

Calling Mom life a breeze, 
Is only to jest. 
How 'bout we embrace it, 
That each stage is best?